I was surfing through videos on youtube, as usual, and I stumbled upon this channel by a lady called Karen Straughan. She identifies herself as an anti-feminist and her videos blew my mind, to say the least. She talks about how feminism is causing more trouble than preserving women's interests. And truth be told, I wouldn't have paid any attention if it was a man saying these things. To give her some credit, she has immaculate logic and a calm voice which is hard to ignore. Since I have been a small girl I have been exposed to feminism, which appeared to be a progressive mordern-thinking which stood for women's rights and equality for women. Though I never identified myself as a feminist, for some psychological reason I felt an obligation as a female to stand by feminism and with it came a feeling which was very close to misandry.
I forced myself to be this strong-independent-snooty-repulsive woman that I am today. I say, I never identified as a feminist, but a large part of me wanted to be a part of it because it was the 21st century thing. I wanted to defy all rules, stand out of the crowd. And ironically enough, now I find myself in this crowd of confused trying-to-be-mordern sort-of-feminist women who think it's ok to treat men badly because you know, revenge, for 'some bad thing' some guy did to some girl in the past. Don't take me wrong. I am all for standing up against cruelties done to women. But do we have to blame and hate every guy we come across for it. I now find men around me to be so afraid to say anything against feminism, in the fear of being branded as old-fashioned or misogynist. And by the way, have you ever seen a man whining or complaining about the amount of work they have to do? Oh they cannot crib or cry, they are men! In comparison, we, women, are so much more whiny. We are not happy when we have to be in the safety of our home, we are not happy when we have to go out and work. We want everything served to us in a silver platter. And when it is served we complain about how the 'guy' forgot to serve wine with it.
Let me deal with some facts from my own life now. My parents made me study and work hard in my academics, for which I am very grateful today, which led me to have a great job, that I love, and be financially independent. They also taught me not to be overtly friendly with "boys", which was great too, as it only helped me to stay focused on my studies. But with it and all the feminism around me, I started to see men as dangerous predators, at best and a different species who are disgusting, lazy and moronic, at worst. Whenever a guy did something nice for me, I saw that
as either a threat, as to them having some ulterior motive behind the
kindness, or just thought them to be weaklings and not good enough for
my attention. My ultimate goal was to pick out the strong men and destroy
them. Though I am against all kinds of hatred at heart, I just couldn't make peace with this one. Because, you see, how else can you stand by the rights of a cat to be treated as well as a dog, if you don't see how dogs are dangerous and filthy while cats are so benign and cute. But all along the truth is there are both kinds in both species.
Feminism also, in actuality, is belittling the jobs of a home-maker. I, as naive (and also lazy) as I am, always bought this one without a question. I always felt that house-wives led a very lowly lives which drove me to be what I am today - a career-woman, which is great as an individual but to-date I abhor doing household chores. Why should I work at home, when I am working in office? Why should I work twice as hard as a man? Well news flash. Life is supposed to be hard. If it's not, you are not moving forward in life. Right now, I am not even working as hard as a man, forget being twice. I don't stay up late in office to get a promotion. I don't make any efforts to socialize with the manager to get into his good books. I live in a 3 bedroom flat with 2 other room-mates along with a maid and a cook. While my male-counterparts, live in a 1 bedroom flat with 4 room-mates and no servants, just so that they can save for their future families or may be even support the present one, whatever their reason for it be they have it hard, just to make a living.
So, what I am trying to say here is this - Whoever you are, feel free to follow your instincts without feeling obliged or answerable to anything or anyone, and don't follow anything anyone says unless you have heard the other end of the argument.
